June 2012
“I can never say what I want to say. It’s been like this for a while now. I try to say something, but all I get are the wrong words-the wrong words or the exact opposite words from what I mean. I try to correct myself, and that only makes it worse. I lose track of what I was trying to say to begin with. It’s like I’m split in two and playing tag with myself. One half is chasing the other half around the big, fat post. The other me has the right words, but this me can’t catch her.”
—Murakami, Norwegian Wood
I am nineteen and I've never kissed a guy, dated a guy, or fallen in love. I feel like there's something wrong with me, but I also feel like I just haven't found the right guy yet. Is there any advice you could maybe give me?
I didn’t have my first kiss until I was 19. Trust me, you are young, there is more than enough time to get out there and have romantic experiences. Cultivate yourself, it will help you in the long run.
How old do you want to be when you get married. I want to be about 22. It only gives me about two years, but I think I'll be ready.
35 is the latest I can see myself having kids and getting married, ideally. It’s a little ways off. I really don’t think at 22 I was able to be responsible for anyone’s life except my own.
This is all a façade.
It is. I am actually a middle aged man that lives in Miami.
If you were into women I would whisk you off to NY/MA/CT/IA/VT/NH and wife you in a heartbeat. A HEARTBEAT.
Ladies love me, but I don’t love ladies like that. (P.S. thank you!)
If youre doing it right by being "that kind of woman" why haven't you found a suitor yet? You'd think it would be easy for you, but from the looks of it, it's not.
I think you answered your own question. It’s hard. Men aren’t ready to be honest, I don’t mind honesty, bluntness. Don’t pretend to be attracted to me, or like me, it’s a waste of my time. And yours.
I want an equal, not someone to pamper me.
What are your thoughts about women asking men out???
YOLO.
Do you think you will ever be "that kind of woman"? Do you think "that kind of woman" exists, or is she a fantasy? And do you think trying to extend that fantasy puts unrealistic expectations on people, or inspires them?
I am already That Kind of Woman, it’s more than just a title. It’s a lifestyle choice, you just understand that being the best kind of yourself is the best kind of woman.
How do you make a man fall for you?
By being yourself. At least by being confident in being yourself. That is truly attractive.
Why do you write romantically if you don't have anyone?
Oh anon, haven’t you ever imagined moments where all you can think about is grazing your fingers against those of another when you pass them something? The spark? That flash of recognition?
