That Kind Of Woman

I think even if you are living your life with the intention of pleasing everyone, negativity will come from countless directions. A lot of it is aimed at what you put out there. Your work, your appearance, your words. 

At the end of the day, you need to realize that there is always something negative to say, and if you let that negativity rule your outlook, or your choices you no longer have authentic original feelings about your work, or yourself.

If someone doesn’t like what I wrote, well hell, at least I am making them feel something. If someone doesn’t like how I look, well then they should avoid looking at me. If someone wants to bring negativity into my sphere, well I hope they realize nine times out of ten it goes in one ear and out the other. And one time out of ten I will take it as criticism and adapt. It’s survival. 

With blogs, you go into it realizing that not everyone is going to like you. With life, when you take a risk, you have to realize there are people who won’t like you, and some people who try to beat you down.

On the internet it’s easier for people to criticize. They aren’t looking you in the eye and telling you “You are a pretentious unattractive person and I only like some of what you do.” Or “You really think you have the body to be in the fashion scene? Think again.” 

I like negativity on here. It’s easy to ignore. It’s a quick glance, and then a delete button. Or an unfollow button. We don’t get that in day to day life, the chance to delete things, or to effectively remove someone from sight. 

So, I suppose I take it as it comes, and remove it as I need to. It’s all about your outlook. A couple negative comments won’t stop me, hell a couple thousand probably won’t. These people probably should start looking inward as to why they need to criticize and attempt to shame a person they will never meet, and that from their comments, no good or change will come from. 

Thanks for the question.