August 3rd, 2012
Why do men only like skinny women. I feel like I have no shot whatsoever in this world to find someone who loves me simply because of my figure and I find that so disheartening.
Anonymous

As a woman with curves, I find this statement to be a half truth. 

Sure, some men like women who fit into a more ‘media friendly’ shape. Ya know the girl next door who can eat what she likes and stay relatively ‘thin’ or maybe she works for her figure, eats right and get’s her time in at the gym. Some women work to keep their bodies at their ideal. 

It’s all personal preference. I have encountered guys who LOVE women with curvey figures. I get complimented for being buxom from men and woman. I also have been insulted for it.

To hell with people who judge you based on your weight. Those aren’t men who you should be spending time with. They obviously can’t look past their own insecurities. 

Confession? I used to never give guys who were shorter or skinnier than me a chance, mostly due to my own issues with my body, and I realized I was the one being petty. If you like someone, really like someone what their body is like is a bonus. Sure physical attraction plays a huge role, but waist size? It’s shallow. 

Sometimes I think about if I was ‘thin’, I am a size 12/14. If I managed, somehow, to get down to a 2/4. I would, most likely, attract an entirely different type of man. I think your figure is a reflection on how you see yourself, I love my body. Do I want it to be healthier? Yes. 

Does that mean striving for a smaller figure? No. It means I focus on how I feel. How my lower back may not hurt if I drop a cup size, how my legs get back in the shape they were when I played a varsity sport.

As long as you are happy and confident in your body, someone will find you stunning. Trust me. 

101 notes
  1. womanafterherownheart said: Honestly it feel likes a lose lose situation at times. That’s why it’s so important to be happy with and care for oneself! Because that is truly the only thing we have control over. I love your insight.
  2. antiquelands said: Thank you for this! I’m also a 12/14 and I have the most amazing boyfriend in the world. There will always be someone out there who will love your mind and THEN your body.
  3. jillianhl said: This is one of the best answers to this question I’ve heard in a long time. As buxom sisters, thank you from the bottom of my heart for speaking truth.
  4. zeitreisender said: Don’t be disheartened! There are guys out there who enjoy a full figured lady. as a curvier girl, I should know! :>
  5. andiemiller said: Amen. Being a fellow 12/14 I am blessed by this post so much. No, I wasn’t Anonymous, but thank you for answering so honestly.
  6. thegreatwhale said: You are so right. I always remind myself that to be admired for my mind and loving attitude to people and nature is much more desirable than being wolf whistled at while I walk down the street. This never works when I’m PMSing however.
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