Being independent, and being human combat. I know exactly what I want. Or, at the very least I think I know what I want. However, sex and intimacy lend a animalistic approach to life. Sex is an urge, an instinct. Intimacy is vulnerability and trust. Being independent means that you need to acknowledge these urges, these desires, wants… etc. Then, you need to weigh your options, your feelings, the consequences. Then you need to consider who you are, and who you want to be.
It’s the rougher road, it’s work. But, it’s worth it.