We all crave a partner who will give and take, as we give and take. It’s human nature. Some people find their matches, it seems to us, so easily. One day you are single the next you are not. Then, there are people like us.
We wait. We have goals, needs, and desires that are in the forefront of our minds when looking for a match. We need someone who is driven like us, with goals, we need people who understand what makes us who we are. We may need someone who is the opposite of us. I am emotional, I am feeling, and I am perceiving. I may need someone who is more judging, and thinking, but at the same time able to be extroverted like I am.
I approach relationships with a seriousness that is sometimes veiled under my enthusiasm. I want depth and authenticity. It’s much harder for other people, especially men, to understand that about me.
Now, when it comes to my friends pairing off and dating, well it affects me, but it also makes me realize that everyone has their time to find a partner. And, that no matter what, if you settle, you won’t be happy.
I could date someone, we all could. We can find a nice enough person, that at times makes us feel cherished and loved, but it won’t be enough.
Love is hard, especially if you are doing it right. At least that’s what I believe. It won’t always be hard, it will be lovely and serene, when you lay down together, or share beautiful moments together. But if you are being yourself truly 100% yourself, and so is your partner it’s going to be hard.
Remember what you want out of your relationships, what you need. Don’t settle, not for yourself, not to go on double dates, and not to make yourself feel less lonely.
Embrace the loneliness, bask in being completely independent. Because once you find the one, the loneliness will be a thing of the past.