Okay folks. Here is a little Kat rant inspired by this here little rule. Gentlemen, please listen to me, I beseech you. You do not need to stay up late, go shopping or do nice things to prove your love. You do it because you are a generally considerate person.
There isn’t a stigma attached to being in a relationship that you suddenly become an amazing awesome human being. No. If you don’t want to go shopping with me, well you could just tell me. Personally, the way this sounds means I am dragging you from boutique to boutique demanding you agree or disagree on my choices. I don’t need that. Wouldn’t you rather just go to big old warehouses that store secondhand vintage goods? Or maybe tour a brewery? I mean, those are things we do together. Love isn’t about always being stuck to a person, if anything it’s understand we each have things we do as an individual. If you want to come with me to the store as I bitch and complain about nothing ever looks like it does in the lookbooks, well that’s on you.
Or we could talk about it. Like you do with anyone who you care about. Maybe this is why I have such a close relationship to my friends, because I have no problem speaking bluntly, I also have no problem staying up late with Amy, or listening to Kristen’s problems or going shopping with Shawn. I will meet Sarah’s parents because it’s what you do as a human who is sensitive to the needs of all people, not just your boyfriend and girlfriend.
Maybe this is why I am single. I don’t need nice things everyday, I need someone to be working with me to have a sucessful life together, emotionally, socially, physically and any other way we decide. We. Us. Him and Me. It’s how I thought of it as a kid, the “ship” in friendship and relationship doesn’t sail with just one person on board.
Also, I think these “How to be a Lady” and “Rules for a Gentleman” are absolutely idiotic. Why do you need anyone to tell you rules on how you should interact in love or in day to day socieity. You should be able to grasp social queues and polite interactions because it’s polite. It’s like the original rule, the golden one. The only one I think should be taking into account. Of course, you should as a “lady” (Don’t ever seriously proclaim yourself to be a lady, it sounds… like you are forcing the issue) know some clues and hints, but you learn that from your grandmother, or mom. Or learn it like they did, through trial and error. To hell with anyone telling you what you should do, take initiative and find out for yourself. Be polite. It’s the human thing to do. Now, who wants to go shopping?